Ramdan is coming & I really need help on this please

[Sadinne]

Hey there everyone
^^

So, I have this HUGE problem and I need some serious help with it, it's like an obsession and it's keeping me from fasting Ramdan right

Whenever I do el Wodhou to pray, I feel like if I put water in my mouth, I'm gonna accidentaly swallow it and ruin my fasting, it really is litterarly an obsession that keeps me from praying right

So, when I wake up for al Sohour, I do my wodhou before al adhan, so I pray al Fajr in time, but during the day, for the other prayers, I'm afraid of doing el wodhou and swallowing the water

So I end up not doing any of my prayers in time, and I save them all until after al Fotour, but sometimes after al foutour I feel heavy, or lazy or I don't know, and doing all four prayers of the day together, seems like a lot, so sometimes I end up not catching up to them, and not doing my prayers

This ruins Ramdan for me, it makes me feel like my fasting is pointless without praying in time, I feel like I don't enjoy ramdan fully because of this, it makes me feel uncomplete

Please, anybody help

Ramdan is coming up in a couple of days, and I need to find a solution to this, this fear has become an obsession, even if I spit I feel like water is still in my mouth, I need help with this please

If any of you have an idea, or advice, or something to say, I beg you to not hold it back, cause I'm desperately looking for help

[Black_Poison]

السلام عليك أختي الكريمة يسعدني ان أكون أول من يجيبك
فإن شعورك بالخوف والوسوسة من الوضوء في نهار رمضان، سببه هو أنك تخشين أن تفسدي صومك ببلع شيء من الماء الذي يكون في الفم عند المضمضة، فأنت لديك خوف من أن تبتلعي شيئاً من ماء المضمضة فيفسد صومك، ولديك شعور بالخوف ( الخوف والوسوسة )، وطريق علاج هذا الأمر يكون بأمرين اثنين:- فالأول: هو دعاء الله تعالى والتوكل عليه، والاستعاذة بالله من وسوسة الشيطان الرجيم، قال تعالى: { قل أعوذ برب الناس... إلى قوله: من شر الوسواس الخناس الذي يوسوس في صدور الناس }. والأمر الثاني هو العلم والبصيرة: فلا بد أن تعلمي أن الذي أمرك بالوضوء في حال صيامك نهاراً هو الله تعالى الذي أمرك بالصوم، فأنت عندما تتوضئين وتتمضمضين وأنت صائمة، إنما تطيعين بذلك ربك، فلا فساد لصومك ولا ضرر عليه إذن؛ لأن بقايا البلل الذي في الفم بعد المضمضة هي أمور معفو عنها مسامح فيها، ولا يلزمك أكثر من أن تخرج الماء من فمك وأن لا تبتلعه وبهذا يزول ما لديك من شك بطريق العلم. وأما البصيرة، فمعناها أن تعلم أن هذا الوسواس لا يتسلط على الإنسان إلا من جهة قلة معرفته بالشرع، ومن جهة أنه يريد أن يفسد عليك عبادتك، فلذلك كان الواجب عليك هو عدم الاستسلام له وعدم طاعته، فهل يطيع العاقل عدوه؟! إذن فلا تلتفتي إلى هذه الوساوس، وإذا عادوتك وخطرت ببالك فاستعيذي بالله منها ومن شر الشيطان ولا تلتفتي لها ولا تعملي بها، ولا حاجة لك بأكثر من هذا القدر لإزالة هذه الوسوسة، ونوصيك بالحرص على تعلم ما ينفعك من أمور دينك، وبدوام السؤال ، ونسأل الله لك التوفيق والسداد والفلاح والنجاح. والسلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

[الكـ الطيبة ـلمة]

This iis an obsession as u said , so to convince u ........... u need a fatwa site

[.kiki]

peace be up on you sissy! hope you're doing good ^^

first, let me say well done, asking for help is good, in fact it's recomanded ... specially in such situations

second, honey you're my sister and i truly consider you so. Therefore, I want good for you as I want it for myself
and it is for this exact reason, and for the fact that Prophet Mohamed May peace and blessings of ALLAH be upon him told us that religion is to advice, I say: no matter what, never leave your prayers till after their time
you're not excused at all
and when one doesn't pray, all his deeds are not accepted... the only diffrence between us and thenonbelievers is Salat, so how would ramadan be Ramadan if you're not doing your prayers right? ^^ hope you got me sissy

and about this obsession, I belive it's just waswassa... It's Chaytan telling you're ruining your fasting, so don't pray until after AL FOTOR, which is exactly what he wants! he wants you to delay your prayers... then when you eat you'll feel heavy (it's natural) and you won't be quite able to do your prayers... so eventually you leave them undone!! that's when Chaytan had reached his goal... making you leave Farida


so dear, Ista3idi bi LLAH mina chaytan rrajim
wa tawakkali 3alayh
and may He helps you out of this problem

and Allah knows best


Peace ^^

[.kiki]

Oh and by the way! ramadan kareem... w kol 3am w nti b khir

[amel nina]

I think there is nothing left for me to say , the sisters have given you the right path to follow in your fight with devil


don't give up, stay cool and be strong I believe you'll get over this problem


May allah be with you sister

[Sadinne]

المشاركة الأصلية كتبت بواسطة Black_Poison

السلام عليك أختي الكريمة يسعدني ان أكون أول من يجيبك
فإن شعورك بالخوف والوسوسة من الوضوء في نهار رمضان، سببه هو أنك تخشين أن تفسدي صومك ببلع شيء من الماء الذي يكون في الفم عند المضمضة، فأنت لديك خوف من أن تبتلعي شيئاً من ماء المضمضة فيفسد صومك، ولديك شعور بالخوف ( الخوف والوسوسة )، وطريق علاج هذا الأمر يكون بأمرين اثنين:- فالأول: هو دعاء الله تعالى والتوكل عليه، والاستعاذة بالله من وسوسة الشيطان الرجيم، قال تعالى: { قل أعوذ برب الناس... إلى قوله: من شر الوسواس الخناس الذي يوسوس في صدور الناس }. والأمر الثاني هو العلم والبصيرة: فلا بد أن تعلمي أن الذي أمرك بالوضوء في حال صيامك نهاراً هو الله تعالى الذي أمرك بالصوم، فأنت عندما تتوضئين وتتمضمضين وأنت صائمة، إنما تطيعين بذلك ربك، فلا فساد لصومك ولا ضرر عليه إذن؛ لأن بقايا البلل الذي في الفم بعد المضمضة هي أمور معفو عنها مسامح فيها، ولا يلزمك أكثر من أن تخرج الماء من فمك وأن لا تبتلعه وبهذا يزول ما لديك من شك بطريق العلم. وأما البصيرة، فمعناها أن تعلم أن هذا الوسواس لا يتسلط على الإنسان إلا من جهة قلة معرفته بالشرع، ومن جهة أنه يريد أن يفسد عليك عبادتك، فلذلك كان الواجب عليك هو عدم الاستسلام له وعدم طاعته، فهل يطيع العاقل عدوه؟! إذن فلا تلتفتي إلى هذه الوساوس، وإذا عادوتك وخطرت ببالك فاستعيذي بالله منها ومن شر الشيطان ولا تلتفتي لها ولا تعملي بها، ولا حاجة لك بأكثر من هذا القدر لإزالة هذه الوسوسة، ونوصيك بالحرص على تعلم ما ينفعك من أمور دينك، وبدوام السؤال ، ونسأل الله لك التوفيق والسداد والفلاح والنجاح. والسلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

Thank you so much
♥

You're right, I should be strong and stand up for myself againt Satan's wishes, I'll take your advice and may Allah be on my side and help me to get through this

Again, thank you so much for your wise helpful words
♥

[Sadinne]

المشاركة الأصلية كتبت بواسطة الكـ الطيبة ـلمة

This iis an obsession as u said , so to convince u ........... u need a fatwa site

Yes, you're probably right, I'll try to find some information online about this

Thanks for the help
^^

[Sadinne]

المشاركة الأصلية كتبت بواسطة .kiki

peace be up on you sissy! hope you're doing good ^^

first, let me say well done, asking for help is good, in fact it's recomanded ... specially in such situations

second, honey you're my sister and i truly consider you so. Therefore, I want good for you as I want it for myself
and it is for this exact reason, and for the fact that Prophet Mohamed May peace and blessings of ALLAH be upon him told us that religion is to advice, I say: no matter what, never leave your prayers till after their time
you're not excused at all
and when one doesn't pray, all his deeds are not accepted... the only diffrence between us and thenonbelievers is Salat, so how would ramadan be Ramadan if you're not doing your prayers right? ^^ hope you got me sissy

and about this obsession, I belive it's just waswassa... It's Chaytan telling you're ruining your fasting, so don't pray until after AL FOTOR, which is exactly what he wants! he wants you to delay your prayers... then when you eat you'll feel heavy (it's natural) and you won't be quite able to do your prayers... so eventually you leave them undone!! that's when Chaytan had reached his goal... making you leave Farida


so dear, Ista3idi bi LLAH mina chaytan rrajim
wa tawakkali 3alayh
and may He helps you out of this problem

and Allah knows best


Peace ^^

Hey there
^^

Thank you so much for this, you girls really made me feel like I wasn't alone, and that I can make it through this, it really means a lot to me
♥

I realize how important my prayer is, and that's why I find it so disturbing to not do them on time during such an important month, but now I've made up my mind, I'll do whatever it takes to do them on time, no matter what it takes

Thanks for the help sister
^^

[Sadinne]

المشاركة الأصلية كتبت بواسطة amel nina

I think there is nothing left for me to say , the sisters have given you the right path to follow in your fight with devil


don't give up, stay cool and be strong I believe you'll get over this problem


May allah be with you sister

Hey there =p

I hope I'll get over it too, I'll do my best to make it stop & inchallah I'll make it through

Thanks a lot, may Allah be with us all
♥

[Sadinne]

المشاركة الأصلية كتبت بواسطة .kiki

Oh and by the way! ramadan kareem... w kol 3am w nti b khir

Thank you sister, Ramdan Kareem to you too, I hope you'll have the best of times with your familly and friends
^^

[Sadinne]

Hey there everyone & Saha ftourkoum
^^

It's been a while since Ramadan has started & I'm doing just fine, I can pray at anytime of the day, I got rid of this problem once & for alla inchallah =D

So, I wanted to say thanks to you all for your support & your precious advice on this matter, you've been very helpful, may Allah reward you with Jannah inchallah

Ramadan Karim
^^

[amel nina]

I'm so happy to hear from u these encouraging news


you got over your problem and you face it bravely


that's really interesting



++++++++

saha ramdanik

and thanks 4 the duaa

[Hind_dz]

المشاركة الأصلية كتبت بواسطة Sadinne

Hey there everyone & Saha ftourkoum
^^

It's been a while since Ramadan has started & I'm doing just fine, I can pray at anytime of the day, I got rid of this problem once & for alla inchallah =D

So, I wanted to say thanks to you all for your support & your precious advice on this matter, you've been very helpful, may Allah reward you with Jannah inchallah

Ramadan Karim
^^

I'm really happy 4 u

[.kiki]

المشاركة الأصلية كتبت بواسطة Sadinne

Hey there everyone & Saha ftourkoum
^^

It's been a while since Ramadan has started & I'm doing just fine, I can pray at anytime of the day, I got rid of this problem once & for alla inchallah =D

So, I wanted to say thanks to you all for your support & your precious advice on this matter, you've been very helpful, may Allah reward you with Jannah inchallah

Ramadan Karim
^^

peace up!! ^^

you believe it? i was thinking about you yesterday when i was doing Wudhu'... and I wondered how were you doing? ^^ and I'm so happy to read your post now

you're always welcome by the way.... and May ALLAH reward you the same

be safe