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[AMAZING] How I’m Trying to Raise 8 Intelligent, God-Conscious Children
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2015-06-07, 19:28 | رقم المشاركة : 1 | ||||
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[AMAZING] How I’m Trying to Raise 8 Intelligent, God-Conscious Children
بسم الله الرّحمن الرّحيم
salam alikum w rahematu allah w barakatuh dear sisters , and brothers , i want to share with u this amazing journey of a Singaporean woman , that successes -with ALLAH's help- to raise 8 children , wich all of them are hafidh of Quran , while she was herself memorising with them .... very inspiring story for us ...so please , try to read the entire story .... may ALLAH guides us and bring us all to the right path .... Ejnoy! ***** Sharifah Mastura Al Jifri is an English reading and writing skills instructor at Prince Sultan University in Riyadh. She strives to be more than just a ******** instructor to her students, guiding them to think above and beyond their studies to achieve good in this world and the Hereafter. I’d met the eldest daughter at law school: a Hafidhah who was fluent in English, Arabic and Malay, a bright student who’d studied 3 different syllabuses and was a remarkably disciplined girl for her age. When she told me all her other 7 siblings were or are becoming Huffaadh and were being educated and brought up like she was too, I couldn’t wait to meet their wonder mom. When I first met their amazing mother Sharifah Mastura Al Jifri – a petite, serene Singaporean woman; and the rest of her beautiful children at their house; I knew I’d never seen an entire productive family like this one in my life, mashaAllah. I finally had the pleasure of interviewing Sharifah Mastura to share her arduous yet highly and continuously rewarding parenting experience with the ProductiveMuslim readership. So here’s how she’s striving to raise 8 intelligent, God-conscious children: 1) Let’s begin by introducing our readers to the role your education played in bringing up your children. After your A-levels, you attended a two-year teacher training course specializing in early childhood education, after which you obtained a bachelors degree in English Literature and Linguistics from the UK. You later attended a two-day workshop based on Glen Doman’s work that was pivotal in inspiring you to bring up intelligent children. Briefly, what fundamental concepts and practices about raising intelligent children did you learn and apply in achieving your parenting goals? Basically for me, it’s putting into practice two principles: Stimulate your children It’s never too early to stimulate your children’s mind, be it through listening to you talking and telling stories, reading books, counting biscuits, smelling onions while you’re c o o k ing etc. Start from the time the child is in your womb because the foetus can hear. Talk to your child, from the time he’s a baby. Stimulate his senses by teaching him everything he can hear, see, smell, taste and touch in his surroundings. Arouse his curiosity and stimulate his mind also by placing educational material in front of him: books, counting beads, charts, good educational toys, and don’t stop. I must say, reading tops my list. Occupy your children I must admit that being trained as a pre-primary teacher has given me an advantage in knowing how to occupy my children. Even if you haven’t been trained, it’s not difficult to find ways in spending and investing time in your children. I started drawing for them and telling them the names of things from the time they were babies. Give them safe, non-toxic crayons to scribble and draw until they can move on to colour pencils. Don’t just pour the bucket of bricks for your children to play with by themselves. Rather, sit with them, build with them, encourage them to be imaginative and creative by being there to help them out when their fingers are stuck or when they can’t find the piece that might just fit the hole. Sitting with your children and occupying them gives you precious bonding time. This is when you discover things about your child, his character, his potential. With this insight, you understand your child, you are better-equipped to mould his character, to stretch his mind and harness his talent. With this strong bonding cemented in their childhood, your children will always turn to you as they get older. You will always be the person to turn to when the bricks won’t stick together! The Core Factor: Although these were the two fundamental basis I applied as a result of my learning, I was also very conscious of the need to bring up children who are pious and god-fearing. Intelligence alone cannot guide a person to be good or moral, rather it can mislead or even destroy its possessor. So I would consider the above two points as my methodology, whilst the core of my upbringing is always to do whatever I can so that my children will acquire knowledge and taqwa. In order to do this, you need to give them the knowledge of the Qur’an, Arabic and the Deen. So, I made sure the baby in the womb hears a lot of Qur’an. So the time I spent with my children is really when I talk to them and try to give them the love of Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) and His Book, the Prophets and his Companions and to teach them whatever I can of Islamic Aadaab (manners/etiquette). To Be Continue ....
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2) You have 8 children of ages 12+ to 24+, each of whom were haafidh by the age of 13 or 14 MashaAllah! They have also all attended Arabic-medium schools while simultaneously being homeschooled by you in the Singapore and British curricula. What inspired you to have such an extraordinary vision for your children? To Be Continue ....
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3) How did you and your children manage to do all of this simultaneously? What was their and your routine in a typical week? To Be Continue ....
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4) What books and other resources have you found to be indispensable in:
One book that I did use and found indispensable was Iqraa’. It’s a book that comes in a series of six small books which teaches children how to read the Qur’an. The approach is very non-Arabic and child-friendly and I have since recommended it to all my friends. Through this, my children learn to read the Qur’an from the mushaf from a very early age which automatically gave them a greater independence in memorising the Qur’an and also in learning Arabic when they started Arabic school. 5) Children and their parents are normally occupied the entire day with having to attend school, complete homework, pack lunches, do school runs and other school-related tasks. How can parents bring out their child’s full potential without them and their children feeling more overwhelmed than they already are? Once you have children and as the family grows, your stamina grows too, believe me. You’ll be able to stretch yourself in a way you never thought possible. This is what diligent and sincere parenting will do for you. Because of my desire to see my children memorise the Qur’an and do well in school, Allah ‘azza wa jal gave me the energy to occupy them, help them and teach them. As a mother, it was the air I breathed, so being tired is a natural state but Alhamdulillah, I never felt overwhelmed. The secret to this is learning the Qur’an. In the course of busily bringing up my eight children, I was also trying to memorise the Qur’an. The book of Allah was the one single source of calmness and strength. As for the children, it’s important to make them understand why they have to do what we, as parents, make them do. I always tell my children from the time they were little and working with me in Qur’an or writing that I want them to grow up to be bright and useful to the Ummah. This is the way to worship Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He). As we need to have the correct intentions, so do our children. They’re never too young to understand that life is about doing things to please Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He). The second thing is to teach them obedience to parents. If your child understands that obeying you is pleasing Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He), then it is easier to get them to cooperate and do everything that they need to do. So once the children see that their day is busy with things that are pleasing to Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) and everything is rewarded, it gives them a true sense of purpose. So it’s not a question of senseless slave-driving, which some families practice, all in the name of succeeding in studies and getting a good job. Worshipping Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) gives you strength and tawfeeq. The child’s potential will unfold itself, In sha Allah. I believe in this because this was what I found in my own experience. I never gave my children any ambition when they were little except to memorise the Qur’an and to work hard to serve the ummah To Be Continue ....
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6) Fulfilling the vision and goals you had as a parent for 8 children must definitely not have been an easy journey. I believe, the fundamental reason for your success after Allah’s help was your perseverance mashaAllah, because this is where most people fail when they set out to achieve their dreams. What kept you going all these years, especially through the hard times? To Be Continue ....
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8) Many of our readers (especially mothers!) will want to know what role your husband played in your achievements with your children. How involved was he in envisioning and executing your parenting goals? To Be Continue ...
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9) Each of your children is also engaged in developing and mastering a hobby, maa shaa'Allah! Tell us about their hobbies, and how did you ensure they each picked up something productive to do for leisure? To Be Continue ...
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11) I recall a profound statement you’d made at a gathering once: “the education of a child begins twenty years before it is born.” Do elaborate this for our readers. ‘Your children will not do what you tell them to do. They will do what you do.”In other words, you need to set the example in everything that you want them to be. Be a pious and filial son and daughter to your own parents and your children will do the same for you. So, be an example to your children especially in your 'Ibaadah. 13) Finally, what is the best advice you have for anyone aspiring to be parents someday, In shaa' Allah? Read all of the above and try for yourself what you feel is right. Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) does not burden you with more than what you can bear. This was my journey and I’m still on the road, only further down. Those of you who are reading this will choose your own path and I pray whatever path you choose for yourself, the aim is the same: that you want to bring up pious children who will benefit the Ummah. Also remember that without correct Islamic knowledge, your children will not be able to serve the Ummah. |
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2015-07-05, 12:11 | رقم المشاركة : 9 | |||
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mashaa Allah, very interesting, thanks for sharing |
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2015-09-09, 23:29 | رقم المشاركة : 10 | |||
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salam alikum
many thanks sister to pass by ... jazaki allaho khairan |
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2015-10-05, 17:30 | رقم المشاركة : 11 | |||
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Thx ^^ keep movin' |
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