Fear and worry

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[size=6]Facing fear, worry & anxiety. Surviving the pressure of being anxious and insecure. Advice to bring you comfort and strength to cope. Email advice available.

FEAR AND WORRY

"I, a stranger and afraid


In a world I never made."



In a difficult world, fear and worry are two of our biggest problems. You are not alone. Many of us share them.[/
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How to handle fear
Often we don't face up to what we fear. We try to hide it in the bottom of our minds, so that perhaps we don't even know what we are afraid of, or are worrying about. It is important to find out exactly what we are afraid of, and also try to understand how the fear started. There may be a particular time, or event, which started it off.

Then here are some ideas to help you look at the problem:

Facing up to it

Sometimes, when you face up to the problem, it doesn't seem so bad. Sometimes, the fear of something is worse than the thing itself! Perhaps tomorrow, the problem may seem less! Remember, "Today is the tomorrow that you spent your time worrying about yesterday."

Talk to someone

This always helps. Find someone you can trust, and share how you feel. In some cultures, this is more difficult than others. You will probably find they have had a similar experience, and can help you.

Look at yourself

Are you one of life's worriers? Your character or family upbringing may make you worry easily. But learn to change negative ways of thinking. There are two ways of looking at a cup of water. The negative way says, "The cup is half empty". But the positive way sees the same cup, yet says, "The cup is half full." OK, its difficult. What we actually need is a new mind, that thinks differently! But yes, this is possible! See later.
Some more common-sense ideas

Don't worry about things at night, or in bed.

Do get good food and exercise.
Try and get out of your usual surroundings - go somewhere else.
Get involved in things which take your mind off worries. Particularly, do things that will help other people in some way.
Fears and worries will grow bigger if you don't deal with them.
Do talk to others.
If fear and worry are affecting your health, or leading to depression, see a doctor.