4) Use humor.
Teasing or kidding can often defuse an angry situation and allow a child to "save face." Don't use humor to ridicule your child; use it to make fun of the situation. Something like, "I know you are mad at that little girl for calling you names. Especially such stupid names. She must not be very smart if the meanest thing she knows how to say is "dumb butt."
5) When situations change, tell the child directly.
"I know that noise you're making doesn't usually bother me, but today I've got a headache, so could you find something else you'd enjoy doing that's a little quieter?" When your headache is gone, let them know they can go back to what they were doing before.
6) Use physical restraint if needed.
Sometimes a child can't stop himself or herself once a tantrum has begun. Physically removing the child from the scene or intervening isn't a type of punishment; it's a way to help your child stop their behavior long enough to gain some control over it.
7) Use bargaining as needed.
We often control our own behavior by doing this. "After a day like this, I deserve a really good meal" may help us curb our own temper when needed. This is not the same as bribery or blackmail. Know what your child likes and what is important enough to your child to serve as a good motivator to manage their anger.
8) Use modeling.
Parents and teachers should be aware of the powerful influence of their actions on a child's or group's behavior. If you curse when angry, don't be surprised when a child does. If you count to ten when angry, don't be surprised if your child follows this good example too. [/SIZE]
Learning to manage anger is a skill for the future
The Role of Discipline
Good discipline includes setting limits, but being flexible when needed. It means explaining the rules and sticking to them in a neutral way. Handling angry children means understanding why they are angry and responding appropriately, setting your own anger aside as much as possible. Bad discipline involves punishment which is unduly harsh and unpredictably meted out. Sarcasm and ridicule also go along with bad discipline.
One of the most important things you do as a parent, teacher, or other adult in a child's life is help them respect themselves and others so they can be happy in the world. While it takes years of practice, it is a vital process that pays off. Teaching your young child to manage anger and talk about feelings can prevent many angry outbursts in teenage years ahead, in their adult relationships, and in their own relationships with their children.
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