أم بدر الدين
2008-08-04, 21:28
~*¤ô§ô¤*~Tips on How to Deal with Difficult People~*¤ô§ô¤*~
http://www.bbc.co.uk/dna/h2g2/B969663white
Having an encounter with a difficult person is as inevitable as death and taxes. They are literally everywhere, in every culture, country and class. Knowing how to deal with difficult people is a skill that is not easily acquired nor mastered, but is an essential requirement to everyday living.
Truth
One of the best policies for dealing with people who are grating a bit on one's nerves is to be honest (you'll get caught if you try to lie) but don't reveal anything about yourself. If they don't know you, then they can't hurt the real you. Inside, you are laughing, while the outside is free to look upset or offended if it will get the job done.
Kill them with Kindness
Experience throws up two constants:
Most of the things people say while in any kind of bad mood are not meant, are unmeditated, and are the verbal *****alent of a roaring animal.
Responding like with like only ever aggravates a situation further and reaches no positive conclusion.
So, the best response is to rise above all provocation and attempt to deal with difficult behaviour in a calm and understanding way.
Teenagers
Not all of us are blessed with such easy-to-please teenagers, so what do you do if you do have a youngster who is hard to handle? If you tell them you will do something, make sure you do it. The point with any difficult child is to never make threats you won't keep, never attempt to patronise them, unless you are sure you will get away with it. It will only make matters worse.
Words of Wisdom
Whenever you have to deal with an unruly person, it's best to keep a level head about your shoulders, no matter how much they annoy you. If you get angry right away, there's no chance that the dispute, whether it be with your fiancé, sister, mother etc, will be resolved quickly or without upsetting everyone involved. If you can't see the problem from the difficult person's point of view, ask them. While this may not work with some, it's usually a good idea in the case of closer relationships. The trick is, in arguments, you need to have patience with the other person, and self-restraint with yourself. Then, not only will you both get a different point of view, but also more respect for each other.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/dna/h2g2/B969663white
Having an encounter with a difficult person is as inevitable as death and taxes. They are literally everywhere, in every culture, country and class. Knowing how to deal with difficult people is a skill that is not easily acquired nor mastered, but is an essential requirement to everyday living.
Truth
One of the best policies for dealing with people who are grating a bit on one's nerves is to be honest (you'll get caught if you try to lie) but don't reveal anything about yourself. If they don't know you, then they can't hurt the real you. Inside, you are laughing, while the outside is free to look upset or offended if it will get the job done.
Kill them with Kindness
Experience throws up two constants:
Most of the things people say while in any kind of bad mood are not meant, are unmeditated, and are the verbal *****alent of a roaring animal.
Responding like with like only ever aggravates a situation further and reaches no positive conclusion.
So, the best response is to rise above all provocation and attempt to deal with difficult behaviour in a calm and understanding way.
Teenagers
Not all of us are blessed with such easy-to-please teenagers, so what do you do if you do have a youngster who is hard to handle? If you tell them you will do something, make sure you do it. The point with any difficult child is to never make threats you won't keep, never attempt to patronise them, unless you are sure you will get away with it. It will only make matters worse.
Words of Wisdom
Whenever you have to deal with an unruly person, it's best to keep a level head about your shoulders, no matter how much they annoy you. If you get angry right away, there's no chance that the dispute, whether it be with your fiancé, sister, mother etc, will be resolved quickly or without upsetting everyone involved. If you can't see the problem from the difficult person's point of view, ask them. While this may not work with some, it's usually a good idea in the case of closer relationships. The trick is, in arguments, you need to have patience with the other person, and self-restraint with yourself. Then, not only will you both get a different point of view, but also more respect for each other.